I want to have a word with the younger ladies...and maybe a few older ones as well, if it is needed. I have been married for nearly 20 years, and it seems like it has taken many of those precious years for me to realize...it's not all about me. You heard me right. When it comes down to it, we are all extremely selfish creatures. We want everything to go our way. We want what we want and we want it now! Whether it's the perfect body, beautiful hair, the latest gadgets, our dream home, what the Jones' have, time alone, peace and quiet...You name it, we want it, and most of the time, we think we "deserve" it. I want us all to stop and ponder...what is our role, our responsibility, in this life? Is it to keep up with the Jones'? Or constantly try and attain that youthful "beauty"?
From the beginning of time, we (women) have struggled with the desire to have power. You may say, "I don't want to rule over any one." That may not be the "power" you struggle with. But what about the "power" to be a goddess? To have the power over men, to sway their eyes (lust) to your body, to have them "worship" your beauty? No, you may not have the desire to rule over a nation, or "wear the pants" in your family, but what about the desires in your heart? Are you longing to be a godly Christian wife and mother, or are you secretly wishing for that "perfect" body that you think can have power to turn men's hearts? Or maybe it's another power you desire. I don't know what it may be, but I do know, we MUST turn our hearts back to God...back to our homes and our families.
We have wasted too many precious years on ourselves. We wonder why our homes are in shambles, why "christian" ladies want to focus so much attention on their outward appearance, and their hearts are full rebellion and bitterness. Yes, I do agree that our society's main focus is on outward appearance, and it is harder in this day and age...we constantly feel as if we are in competition with our bodies...BUT, aren't we supposed to "come out from among them and be ye separate, saith the LORD"... To be in the world, but not of the world. It's time we start focusing on our hearts...on the things that matter most in life. One day we are going to wake up and realize that it is too late...we've spent all our life on worldly pursuits, and not focused on the things that REALLY matter. What IS the chief end of man? To glorify GOD and enjoy HIM forever! We are falling for the exact same thing that Eve fell for in the garden...we want to be God, plain and simple. We are to pursue righteousness, holiness, godliness, contentment. Are we teaching our children to pursue these things, or are we teaching them to pursue their desires, their dreams, their wants, their lusts? We need to examine our hearts, our motives. Are they in accordance with scripture, or are they our own humanistic agenda? God said if we obey him, he will bless us...if we disobey, he will curse us. Which is it going to be?
Another area I see running unchecked is jealousy, and it is usually a bigger problem with women than men, and yes, I have struggled with it greatly in the past. There is a time and a place for everything, and I do believe that there can be a time for righteous jealousy, but what I'm seeing is not and could never be labeled as "godly" jealousy. It is flat out, "selfish distrust, because we want it all to be about me", jealousy. What are we teaching our daughters? Again, we have taken our focus off the prize (the high calling of Jesus Christ) and put the focus on ourselves. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but jealousy is selfishness at it's core. The Bible says plain and simple that it's as cruel as the grave. Think about that for a minute. To me that says that the person on the receiving end of a jealous wife might as well be put in the grave. There is no escaping it...no matter what he does, he is never trusted. Can you even imagine? Again, we need a complete heart change. Are our lives bringing glory to Jesus Christ or are we wanting it all for ourselves. When our lives on this earth are past, what will we be remembered for... Just something to ponder.
Only one life, ’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.
Only what’s done for Christ will last.